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Same sex wedding in Paris – Javier & Joshua

Javier and Joshua first met at Columbia University, where Josh was an undergraduate student and Javi a masters student in cultural anthropology. They met at an event on the intersections of queer identity and immigration and Josh decided to ask Javi out for a coffee. At first, Josh totally thought he was in the friend zone, but after three dates they shared their first kiss on Josh’s stoop after they got caught in the rain after a dinner out. “Totally cliché, but it actually happened like that!”

This handsome couple actually proposed to each other! They had been living together for three years and talk about marriage came up a lot. “We both knew it was something we wanted but were a little lost on who should propose and why one of us should have the privilege (or punishment) of proposing to the other. So we decided to go through the process of designing our rings together and getting them made at a local jeweler in Philadelphia, where we were living at the time. Once they were done, we cooked a nice brunch for two, popped a bottle of champagne, and exchanged rings and cards that listed the reasons why we wanted to marry each other.”

“We went back and forth A LOT on the location. We wanted something stylish and small (think Solange). Josh had studied abroad in Paris and it was the first place we traveled to together internationally. We were weighing all of our city options (Los Angeles, New York, Puerto Vallarta…) but Javi literally turned to Josh one day and asked him, “where have you always dreamed of getting married since you were a little boy?” The answer, of course, was Paris. Something about the city’s history, romance, and openness always spoke to us so we knew it was the perfect place.”

“Ultimately, it was for the romance. We made a decision early on that we wouldn’t care if no one wanted to come to our wedding; at the end of the day it was about us and celebrating our love for each other. We honestly did not think as many people would come but we’re so happy they did. The best part of doing a destination wedding was being able to show Paris to our loved ones through our eyes and hopefully help them create meaningful memories of their own.”

“After we chose Paris as our city, the style for the wedding really fell into place on its own. We started by looking at venues because we knew that the majority of Parisian venues had so much character that the venue would dictate a lot of the vision. We wanted an urban wedding, so that ruled out the gorgeous, but inconveniently located, chateaux in the outskirts of Paris. We were essentially between a boat on the Seine and one of several classic Parisian hotels.”

“We ultimately settled on the Plaza Athénée because everything about it resonated with our vision: its location in the heart of the city’s fashion houses, steps away from the Seine and the Eiffel Tower, its classic Parisian beaux-arts style, and its aura of elegance. We worked with our graphic designer to design a logo and color scheme that matched our desires (we loved dark navy and rose gold), but also would work well with the Hotel’s style.”

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Photography: Paris Photographer Pierre // Venue: Hotel Plaza Athenee // Tuxedo & Mens Attire: Noose & Monkey // Apparel: Vince Camuto & Topman // Shoes: Christian Louboutin & Alexander McQueen

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